There may be others issues that are on your mind as you start this process. Maybe the love of your life has children who you and she want to bring to the United States with her. Maybe the child or children can not accompany their mother when she comes to the United States, either because of school or other reasons. Does that mean they can never come later? Is the mother making an irrevocable decision to leave her children behind in order to be with you?
These are legitimate concerns, and you probably feel like you have a million other questions swirling through your head. You don’t know where to turn for help. It is so confusing. What must you file, where do you file whatever you need to file, what does it cost, how long will it take, what are the rules? One very important question is whether you are even eligible for whatever process might be out there for people just like you? I know how you feel. I have stood in your shoes, though I had the advantage of knowing the law and the immigration process.
You might decide that you don't need a lawyer, and perhaps you can handle your case on your own, but I have seen enough cases to have reached the conclusion that most people would be wise to hire a lawyer.
One reason for this is that there is a common misconception that all that is involved in the process is to fill out some forms and send them in with a few documents. Nothing could be further from the truth. There is a reason for each question on a form, and unless someone knows the reason for that question and the law that applies to it, they face the risk of a disastrous denial and a much more expensive legal fee after that happens.
After you read this article I hope you read the other articles on this website that discuss the next steps in the process. I have also written a book on the subject, which was published in November 2008, and republished in August 2010. The book is called No Price Too Great, and it can be found at its own website, which is www.LeeSolomon.org. It is also available through www.Amazon.com and all of the major book outlets. On the book's website, there is a blog by the author that provides updates that you may find to be of interest. The other articles and the book No Price Too Great were written for the same purpose, which is to provide general information, not legal advice.
My daughter, for example, arrived in America shortly before turning age 15, speaking and understanding very little English. Sure she struggled in her freshman year of high school, but she overcame the language barrier and graduated as the class salutatorian. She was admitted to Mays School of Business and Texas A&M University and is making her mark there as well. The point is that children can adapt if they are provided the opportunity.
And what about your wife? Will she be happy in America, or will she regret coming here to be with you? I can only tell you that my wife has been very happy in America because she has many friends and activities that have fulfilled her life, and watching our daughter excel in school and have many friends has also been a source of happiness for her.
Be careful, though, if you decide to hire a lawyer. If you aren't careful, you may just think you are hiring a lawyer when in fact, once you sign the legal services agreement and pay the fee, you will find it is very difficult or even impossible to speak with a lawyer about your case. Instead, your case will be processed by paralegals or legal assistants and merely be signed by a lawyer. In other words, you won't get what you paid for.
If you end up in this situation, you will be frustrated to no end because the lawyer is not available to answer your questions during the processing of your case, and believe me, you will have questions. We know this because some of our clients came to us from other law firms when they found that the lawyer was never available to speak with them about their case.